At a Seattle sports bar on a recent Saturday night, hundreds of unusually tall people experienced a rare sensation: blending in.
Women in their highest heels found themselves looking up, while men accustomed to ducking under doorways appeared unremarkable. For once, the perennial question about playing basketball was left unasked.
This unique gathering was part of the ‘Tall Tour’, a burgeoning travelling meetup that has drawn thousands across the United States, celebrating the physical trait that has made them stand out — for good and ill.
Since its launch last summer, the tour has visited 19 cities, with crowds swelling from an initial 30 people in Tampa, Florida, to some 4,000 in Orlando, according to organisers. Seattle drew around 750, they said.
Tyler Bergantino, the tour’s 6ft 9in founder who wears a size-16 shoe, articulated the profound impact of these events.
“You’re walking around and there’s people your height and people taller than you when you thought you were just this giant freak,” he said. “That’s something that I think is very healing for tall people.”
The concept emerged almost accidentally. Mr Bergantino, 32, a former software salesman turned TikTok creator, posted a casual invitation on social media travelling through Texas. He wanted content. Instead, he sparked a movement.
“It created itself,” he said. “I can’t really take credit for it.”
Each stop follows a similar format: Tall people gather, take photos, share recommendations for shoe shopping and swap stories about hitting their heads on door frames and cramming into airplanes.
For many women, the night’s biggest draw is the speed dating component and the hope of meeting someone comfortable dating a taller woman — whether that means matching their height, exceeding it or simply being open to it.
Many bonded over the shared challenge of navigating a dating culture that still favors petite women.
“Dating as a tall woman, you feel like you’re intimidating to people,” said 25-year-old Ksenia Protasenko, who’s 6 feet tall.
“There’s this association with you being a warrior type, but it’s not true. It’s tough to have your height as the first thing people notice about you because it feels like people are not really seeing any vulnerable parts of you.”
Protasenko said men often ask whether she plays basketball. She usually has a reply ready.
“I tell them, ‘Yeah, sure,’ even though I don’t,” she said. “Then I ask them if they play mini golf. That seems to straighten them right up.”
Crowning the royalty of the tall
The highlight comes when organizers crown the tallest man and woman in attendance. In Seattle, those titles went to a mother and son. Susan Mullendore, 44 and 6-foot-5, stood beside her son Grayson, 19 and 7 feet tall, as the crowd erupted.
“As a mom, just seeing Grayson having this experience meant the world to me,” Susan said. “To be able to be crowned with him was really special. It was nice to have our height celebrated.”
For Grayson, a college freshman, the evening offered something rare: a feeling of normalcy. When in public, he said, strangers make comments and photograph him without asking. “People think that because we’re tall they can say whatever they want or do whatever they want, like we’re zoo animals almost,” he said.
At Tall Tour, the dynamic flipped.
“It was insane to feel small for once,” he said, noting the event’s 7-foot-3 and 7-foot-4 co-hosts known as the Tall Boys. “It was so surreal to be able to have a conversation and look people in the eyes.”
That commonality runs deeper than shoe size. Attendees describe a lifetime of social hyper vigilance — raising their voices a few pitches to sound less intimidating, slowing down around corners so they do not startle strangers, slouching to fit in.
“You’re hyper-fixated on making sure that people don’t see you as a threat,” Bergantino said.
Tall people often feel isolated and out of place, particularly around puberty he said, noting he reached 6-foot-9 at age 16. But at Tall Tour, people can finally feel what it’s like to fit in.
“It heals a portion of your inner child,” he said. “Everyone’s walls come down, and it’s like we’re all one family.”
Susan knows the feeling.
“Sometimes you just want to go through the airport and be left alone. And that doesn’t happen for us. We usually get a lot of whispers,” she said. “We get it. It’s shocking to see tall people. But sometimes it does get old.”
The challenges extend beyond social awkwardness. Finding clothes and shoes that fit can be a mission. Susan, who wears a size-14 shoe, orders clothes from a specialty brand in the United Kingdom. To fit in his dorm bed, Grayson added a mattress extender and three sheets of plywood for support. He still hangs off the edge.
What began as a meetup has become a fast-growing business
Bergantino quit his sales job two years ago and now runs Tall Tour full time with a small team that includes his brother, who handles video and social media, a chief executive officer and a chief operating officer.
Even celebrities have taken notice. Seven-foot-6 basketball player Mamadou Ndiaye attended the Los Angeles event and the team has been in contact with 7-foot-1 NBA legend Shaquille O’Neal.
Future plans include expanding speed dating, launching a fashion show featuring height-inclusive brands and models, and adding spinoffs such as Tall Tour at Sea.
International stops in Canada, Dubai, London, Australia, the Netherlands and Japan are also on the wish list. Bergantino says he wants to build “the tall-person ecosystem” — advocacy for exit row seating, better clothing options and even a phone app.
For now, the reward comes in smaller moments, like watching women in heels celebrate the height that once caused shame.
“The most joy of the day comes from the Tall Queen when she gets her crown and everyone’s going crazy,” he said. “It gets me every time.”
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