An alleged victim of Alan Jones has told a Sydney court that an unwanted kiss from the former shock jock more than a decade ago is seared in his memory and he wished it never happened.

The ex-sportsman, known as complainant M, agreed during cross-examination by the defence that he sent Jones a shirtless photo of him in Paris some months before the alleged kiss.

M explained the photo was sent in response to a question from Jones about how he was faring while he was overseas.

M replied “this good, haha”, accompanied by the photo which had just been taken of him and which he thought was a good photo, the court heard on Thursday.

Jones replied: “I love the photo. I love you. I want to kiss you for hours. That is beautiful. We must catch up xxxxxx.”

Defence barrister Gabrielle Bashir suggested to M that the subsequent alleged kiss at an awards night in 2015 never happened. She showed him text messages where he was affectionate to the defendant despite testifying he was shocked and embarrassed.

“I know the kiss happened because I can’t get it out of my memory,” M replied on his third day in the witness box at Downing Centre local court.

“I wanted the kiss that happened to have never have happened. In some ways I feel as though I am deflecting [in the text messages].”

Jones has been charged with 20 counts of indecent assault and two charges of sexual touching against six men. He has pleaded not guilty to all of the charges.

Bashir on Thursday suggested that a text from Jones after the event which included the words “I hope you can feel my kisses darling” did not imply any kiss happened because Jones often spoke to him like that.

Jones had said: “Great to see you. Sorry I didn’t catch up after … You looked great. I love you, I hope you can feel my kisses darling xxxx.”

M replied with a message: “Nice to see you too. I had a very long day today and I am pleased to be in bed now. Thanks mate xoxo.”

M pushed back on repeated suggestions by Bashir that he has given conflicting statements to police and in court about the awards night when the alleged kiss took place. The defence barrister asked M dozens of questions about seating arrangements, the guest list, the timing of meals and awards and which direction Jones was facing when the alleged offence occurred.

“What I may not be able to give is who was sitting at my table … at which direction something may have happened. Those things I may not recall,” the complainant said.

Bashir said in court: “I suggest the kiss allegation could not have happened in any location. You have never said in any police statement that this happened at the [location] have you?”

M replied: “No I haven’t.”

After lunch Bashir took the witness to apparent inconsistencies in his five police statements and his evidence-in-chief about the second charge, an alleged kiss at Jones’s luxury Macquarie Street apartment.

He has told the court the defendant kissed him and pressed his genitalia against his thigh causing him to shout out “OK mate” and flee the harbourside apartment.

Jones’s barrister said the incident could not have happened in March 2020 because Jones had relocated to Fitzroy Falls during the Covid pandemic and was broadcasting his radio show and his Sky News program from the farm.

“As I said before I am not 100% certain of the date,” M said.

Bashir said M had never given an account of Jones declaring his love for him in between kisses before his evidence-in-chief on Monday.

“Unfortunately for me I had to replay this moment in my head,” he replied. And I recall what happened very specifically.”

Bashir said: “There was no speaking interrupting kisses was there?”

M replied: “I disagree with you.”

Bashir said: “That second incident did not happen it, did it?”

M replied: “That is not correct.”

The trial is in its seventh week. The former athlete is the first complainant to choose to give evidence in a closed court and come face to face with Jones.

The trial before judge Glenn Walsh continues.